The Art of Letting Go

• You hug him good-bye like its nothing... While all you wish for to do is hold on forever… But you let go, you just smile and walk off. Then you cry all the way home because you know it will never be the same, because try as you might, you can't make someone love you. Sometimes you have to let them be free... and letting go, that is when love hurts the most of all.
  
  And so it finally happened. Your poor, heart finally crumbled into a little pile of dust and flew away. It was over. You were never going to get someone back. It was time for a little self-respect. It was time to let go. It’s now the time to move on.

You wonder who will you love and who will you see, but most of all you wonder what you’ll be. It seems like yesterday, you had it all and nothing was wrong, but the times are changing and time will come that everything can go wrong... Moving on is simple, it's what you leave behind that’s hard. It’s really painful to say goodbye to someone else that you don’t want to let go, but believe me, its even more painful to ask someone to keep on if you can never make the relationship work out the way it should.

• Letting go isn't a one time thing, its something you have to do everyday, over and over again.
  To let go isn't to forgot, not to think about, or disregard. It doesn’t leave feelings of resentment, envy, or regret.
  
• Letting go isn't about winning or bringing up the rear. It’s not about pride and it's not about how you come out and it’s not obsessing or dwelling on the past.
  
• Letting go isn't blocking memories or thinking heartbreaking thoughts, and doesn't abscond emptiness, hurt, or gloom.
  
• Letting go isn't about loss and it's not about defeat. It’s not about giving in or giving up.
  To let go is not to value the memories, but to overcome and move on. It is having open mind self-reliance in the future.
  
• Letting go is learning and experiencing and growing.
  To let go is to be thankful for the times that made you giggle, made you shed tears, and made you mature. It’s about all that you have, all that you had, and all that you will soon gain.

Finally, letting go is having the courage to accept change, and the strength to keep moving. Letting go is growing up. It is realizing that the heart can sometimes be the most potent remedy. To let go is to open a door, and to clear a path and set yourself free.

--my article for our mag (TRUFRENS)